It is an amazing, life-changing experience. But no matter how in love you are with your little one, caring for a newborn can take a serious toll on your sex life.
To put it bluntly: “Babies are sex killers,” says psychiatrist Gail Saltz, MD, at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center.
Though getting back in the sexual swing of things can be tough, it’s a necessary process that challenges most couples.
Here Are Some Important Things To Put Into Consideration
1. Getting The Green Light To Have Sex After Baby
Most Women need to confirm from their doctor before start having sex. Ensure you are no longer having any postpartum vaginal discharge known as Iochia. Sex before this discharge stop can put you on the risk of infection. If you have a lot of stitches during delivery getting your sex life back may take a longer time.
2. Lack of Sleep Smothers Your Sex Drive
The stress of taking care of the new born occupy most of your time this may result in fatigue, you know, new baby is usually awakes to feed every two or three hours around the clock, and this can go for months of age.Your may just tired, you must know that men are more likely to be interest in sex, to them sex is a way to relax and help feel emotionally close to you. If fatigue is the issue tell your husband to allow you relax while he hold the baby before going into sex or better still carve a time may be after morning chore, when the baby is sleeping then you can have time for your partner.
3. Post Pregnancy Hormones and Sex
Hormones are part of the sex problem. Estrogen levels go down after delivery that can cause a shortage of vaginal lubrication, which can make sex painful or less pleasurable. Try different positions, like being on top which can give you more control during penetration. If lack of lubrication make sex hurt, use a tropical lubricant during sex. Lubrication issues usually go away after you stop breastfeeding or after your period resumes.
4. Breastfeeding May Get In the Way
Breastfeeding is very important, but it can create several pitfall when you are trying to resume your sex life. The baby is physically on you, sucking on you, cuddling you- leaving you touched-out. Compassion is just as important as passion.
5. Body Changes Inside and Out
The added weight during pregnancy may take a while to shed out, the add on newly acquired stretched mark, couple with some scar if you had a c-section. In short for you to look sex after delivery takes a while. You can talk to your partner to assist you hold the baby while you undergo some exercise to help. Try some kegel exercise to tone your pelvic muscles.
6. Be Honest About What's Holding You Back
If you are still having trouble resuming your sex life apart from physical issues. Feel free to discuss whatever it is with your partner. Some new mother feel dejected that they are home alone changing diapers while the husband is outside enjoy is life with friend.
7. Explore The Alternatives
Even when you're not feeling sexual, make an effort to express your affection. Try kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, or giving a relaxing foot rub. Remember to do that during the day to keep alive your feeling of connectedness.
8. Accepting The New Normal
Although it varies from person to person, most sexual issues women experience after pregnancy get better withing the first year. With your new family development your sexual life may not be like before, but whatever it may be, you must embrace it together and find a way to play around it. Remember it is not about how much sex you're having. It's about how unhappy you each might be about not having it. if one partner feels denied all the time, it creates a vulnerability in the relationship. This problems have to be addressed before it's too late.
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